Yes, I said, “War Games.” My boys are boys and they’ve a right to be! Boys are wild and crazy. They do daredevil things. They explore and they learn how to hunt, protect and defeat the bad guys. There is an amazing book that discusses what a man is and should be all about. It’s called, “Wild at Heart.” It’s the companion book to the other I discussed, “Captivating.” A quick synopsis on Amazon says:
“Every man was once a boy. And every little has dreams, big dreams, dreams of being the hero, of beating the bad guys, of doing daring feats and rescuing the damsel in distress. Every little girl has dreams, too: of being rescued by her prince and swept up into a great adventure, knowing that she is the beauty.
“But what happens to those dreams when we grow up? Walk into most churches, have a look around, and ask yourself: What is a Christian man? Without listening to what is said, look at what you find there. Most Christian men are . . . bored.
“John Eldredge revises and updates his best-selling, renowned Christian classic, Wild at Heart, and in it invites men to recover their masculine heart, defined in the image of a passionate God. And he invites women to discover the secret of a man’s soul and to delight in the strength and wildness men were created to offer. John Eldredge is the director of Ransomed Heart”
When my boys want to play with toy guys and pretend to shoot the bad guys, I let them. I give them the room to grow and learn what being a boy (and a man) is all about. Without it, they’d get bored. If I forced them to forgo their innate ability to defeat the wrongs in the world, I feel like I’d be stunting their growth.
I like to pretend that I am teaching them, “killing is wrong and disabling the bad guys and arresting them” is preferred. Caiden loves Batman and I use that to teach him that Batman doesn’t kill anyone. He disables the bad guy and then lets the police throw the bad guy in jail. The truth is, when we’re battling like this, they are shooting to kill but it’s all in fun. They learn to protect their teammate and have some fun in the process.
I managed to get close to 700 shots of the boys (with Jen and I) playing with guns on Thursday. Mommy’s camera was a gun and, if I took your picture, I shot you.
In this one, Jen forgot to watch her back while trying to take out Brendan. Caiden snuck up behind her and got her good.
And, if you can’t kill the Nanny, dog-pile her. This always works – especially when you work as a team (there’s that teaching part, again) and get it done together!
“Hey, Caiden? Bam! You’re dead!” (mommy snuck up with the camera)
Both of my children are gorgeous but I believe Brendan is one of the most photogenic children I’ve ever seen. Yes, I am prejudice. I’m supposed to be – I’m the mom!
They are waiting for Caiden to come back out so they can ambush him. It was a long wait. He was actually very busy creating something:
“Mom! Look! I made a shield. It even had a handle!”
Now that’s a good one!
He eventually gave it to his brother and Brendan decided it was a great way to hide from Jen while blowing her up….
He created the gun on the bottom and attached Caiden’s shield to the top of it. He was hiding behind it while shooting at Jen. Check out this picture of his face after he supposedly “killed” Jen:
Evil little troll!
Mom went and got to some gum to gnaw on and she decided to blow up the babies with it. I threw it at them and screamed, “Boom! You’re dead. I blew you up!” They thought that was kinda cute.
Nanny down. Nanny down! Alert the medics! The Nanny is down!
And Caiden is down. Ouch.
Brendan takes out the photographer (me) and it’s game over.
It was a lot of fun. I enjoyed my part in it and I managed to get 690 pictures of them during our “War Games.” Again, I have to say, it was fun and, in some ways, educational. My children built their weapons and defenses and ran around, getting energy out.
Yes, I’ll let them keep playing. I find it good for them and, besides, sitting them in the house all the time, being sheltered, doesn’t lead to growing into self-sustaining men. When they get a little bit older, they’ll start training on guns to go hunting with their dad and all of his family. Hunting is a big part of that side of the family. They are prepping now for that adventure of life.