Some quotes from Joel Osteen Ministries:
- “Forgiving doesn’t mean that what the other person did was right or excusable. It means that you are trusting God to make up the difference.“
- “If you can change your words, you can change your world.“
- “Be free with your compliments and be quick to vocalize them. Every day, try to find someone you can build up and encourage.“
- “If you ask Him, God will restore you, encourage you, and fill you with His hope.“
- “God has you in the palm of His hand. He has answers to all the problems you are facing now and all you will face in the future.“
- “You are a child of God. You have the greatest power in the universe inside you. You can break any addiction and overcome any stronghold.“
- “Faith doesn’t exempt you from problems. It gives you the strength to get through them.“
- “What you don’t confront you cannot conquer.“
- “Whatever you are called to do, if you do it to the best of your ability and excel at it, you are honoring God.“
- “Seeds of discouragement cannot take root in a grateful heart.“
- “Don’t spend all your time trying to win over your critics. Just run your own race.“
- “Jealousy will trap you right where you are. Instead, learn to let other people’s success inspire you. If God did something for them, He can certainly do it for you.“
- “Be the original that God created you to be.“
- “Happiness does not depend on your circumstances. It’s a choice that you make.“
- “Remember, you are not who people say you are, you are who God says you are.“
- “Today, decide not to speak negatively about yourself. When you criticize yourself, you are criticizing God’s very own creation.“
1. Forgiveness. That one is hard. If you stop to think about it, you tell someone you accept their apology and forgive them for whatever was done. However, does it really leave your thoughts? You can say you try; however, don’t you eventually pick it back up (typically if they do it again) and say, “See? I knew you would do it again.”
Forgiveness is hard. It takes conscious effort to forgive and move on. A Pastor of mine once said, “Forgiveness is one thing. However, giving them a chance to do it to you again? That’s another thing. Eventually you get a reputation for doing something wrong and people may forgive but don’t have to allow themselves to be hurt again.” Exactly. Caution, though. You don’t want to “throw it in their face” or hold it against them in the future. If you’ve forgiven, then forgive and move on. Protect yourself while giving someone a chance to change.
2. Recently, I went camping. I went to a National Park of sorts up near the west entrance of Yellowstone National Park. I thought I was doing pretty good by having just table, fire ring, tent and a hole in the ground for bathroom business. I cooked all of our meals over the fire. That’s not true; I did make egg salad before we left and had that for lunch. We also had tuna salad in a can with crackers when the Rendy overheated. However, the entire goal for me was to be away from my comfort zone and take care of me, my two boys and the Nanny. I did – not perfectly, but I did. It takes practice and knowledge.
During this adventure, it was mentioned to me that “that’s not real camping.” I was at a campground instead of in the middle of the forest. I was at a campground with two small children – no weapons to defend myself – instead of a forest with creatures and people.
The rest of the time we were play-camping, I felt horrid. I felt like a failure. I wasn’t good enough. I didn’t do enough. I didn’t “rough it” like I was supposed to if I was going to go camping. Someone else mentioned to me that “this person is just trying to get your goat, don’t let them. You did great.” Doesn’t matter – the words made an impact and still stick with me today – over a week later. I’m not too keen on going camping again because it’s not “real.” I’ considering it but not too seriously – but if I do, I’ll go right back to my comfort zone. No camp trailer, no 4-wheelers. Just a tent, some cook pots and food in a campground where my family is safe and less stress for me.
So, words, huh? As in quote number 2. Uplift or destroy with words. Something to think about.
I have always tried, when I failed at everything else, to make sure I praise my boys for something they did good. Words like, “Great job!” or “Nice try, next time, huh?” or “That was so close!” or “A very good effort!” I don’t lie, I tell them how they did but I use true words. They get their successes and praise from me and I build them up as I can – without trying to lie about it.
A week ago or so, Brendan tried to do something. He failed. His older brother said, “That’s ok, Brendan. You can try again and do it better.” And then I heard, “That one went FAR! Do it again, go further.” and “Awesome attempt, try again?”
Do you hear what I hear? My boys are learning from me to build each other up – without lying. Without falsehoods that cause hurt feelings when they get old enough to understand.
I am going to skip to number 11. I feel it is important. When I am done with this one, I’ll end this page and continue on with a new post, later. There will be internal links when I am finished. Click on a quote and hear how it affected me when I first read it – and my thoughts on the quote.
11. My life has been torn to shreds these past few months. I’ve lost some of my biggest supporters; people I expected to be there for me – always and forever. I can’t stop their opinion but I can be true to my God and rest in His arms. I can’t make people understand why I did the things I saw I needed to do. They’ll have to keep their opinions and I can’t change them – nothing I can do will ever convince them of my intent. I can’t run around the world and explain to each person what happened and how bad it was – why I had to get out of the situation I was in. They either accept or not. I can’t win them over.
I can, however, give the problem to God and make my apologies where I need to, and move on. Rebuild and continue walking forward. I can because I have to. I have two small children that depend on me to keep going and not let words of others knock me on my butt and force me to give up.
This morning, I made pancakes. Now, when I’m home, I always use my griddle. It’s so quick, simple and easy. I am a master when it comes to using that griddle to make (certain) things. Well, this morning, I decided to use my favorite cast-iron pan. I put a dab of butter in it and made the first pancake pretty quickly and it was beautiful. This could work, I told myself and then promptly burnt 4 in a row. In fact, I destroyed one so bad, I had to throw it in the garbage disposal.
Pretty sad, huh? However, I didn’t let it beat me. I went outside and sat for a minute and relaxed. Then, I came back in and kicked some butt on some really yummy banana pancakes. I gave everyone two pancakes – one burnt and one not. They ate them, so I’m happy.
Moral of the story? Well, quite frankly, when you give up, you never learn. I was trying to use a wooden spatula when, at camp, I use metal. That’s why they were getting destroyed. Also, I was expecting the pan to stay oiled/buttered throughout when I know that it’s not that way. Pancakes dry a pan, which means burnt cakes.
I still need to clean up the mess, though. It’s bad. I cleaned the dishes but my bestestes pans are in shambles. I need to wipe them out and bake them for a few minutes.
Thank you for listening and watch for more as I go through Joel’s quotes,